Hello friends, how are you today? Just today, in fact, right now… how are you? We are doing fine, thank you for asking, over here. Thank you for the time spent with me, I truly appreciate your comments and likes on last week’s posts; I did It Again and Portrait of God’s Woman, thank you. Yesterday our temperature struggled to make it to a chilly 26° and Sunday heralded snow, but that’s in the past, right? Today arrived with thick clouds with no hope of sunshine but thankfully, 45° will be our temperature. Sometimes the fluctuation of the day’s temperature reminds me of life. Life is never stagnant, is it? We may feel that our life is one of drudgery and sameness, but the truth is life is a series of ups and downs and ins and outs, it’s one of progress and regress, starts and stops. Believe me, if you are not living life, life is leaving you. Life is to be lived and cherished because this life is a beautiful gift from God, despite its clouds. We can have sunshine in our souls today because we have a Savior.
When I taught in the public schools and before I had children, I blamed the parents for most of a child’s bad behavior. To some extent, I still do. A teacher, like a parent, has some insight into the character of a child. One can tell when the bad behavior displayed comes naturally to the child or perhaps is the result of peer pressure. There is this furtive look on the student when the behavior is not learnt at the feet of the parents. Unfortunately for the parents, that remains true, even when the child becomes a young adult, parents are still held accountable for their misdemeanors. There is a shoot-out at the school or a fight that leaves another dead, all eyes immediately go the parent and excuses, or reasons are found for actions. In today’s world, very few people take total responsibility for their own actions.
I have a new policy as a result of having kids myself. Our girls are young ladies, presently, but they are still, technically under our roof. Unfortunately, the Lord has not shared with me what will become of them when they leave our home. So… thank you I will take the discredit, I can’t stop the millions of therapists out there who will say, ‘your parents are to blame’; but also, be aware, I will also take the credit if they go on to become great women.
Isn’t it sad, that parents are rarely mentioned when kids grow up to become well adjusted, great men and women? Why do we assign all the bad to the parents but give all the good to the kids or society? Well not anymore… I have told the girls, if I’m to be given all the hate for their bad behaviors, then I want all the love for their good, I think that’s fair, don’t you?
I love this verse; it is so profound in its essence. Quite clearly, it says, you and me, we are responsible for our very own actions. I am responsible for my actions, me, not you, caused me to do what I did. I did it. In spite of my upbringing, in spite of my parents, whether they be good or bad, I am responsible for my actions.
I appreciate that before God, my girls will each stand to give account of their own life, in spite of my parenting. I will also have to testify of my parenting skills but that will not nullify the girls’ responsibly. The Lord is fair and just and has provided each of us with opportunities to adhere to His standards. I am responsible for me, for my walk with Him, for my growth, for my nearness to my Savior. It is my responsibility to take the time to draw near to the Lord in His Word and through prayer. It is my responsibility to obey His Word. No matter how much I may wish it were different, my relationship with the Lord isn’t the girls’, not is it my husband’s; it is just mine, all I can do for anyone out there, is live an exemplary life and pray, but even if I don’t; you are still responsible for you.
How are you doing?