Good morning dear friends, how are you today? It is snowing AGAIN in my neck of the woods. Last weekβs snow was still on the ground. Will this be the pattern for the rest of the year, Lord? Iβm not sure I can do it. Pray for me, Iβm already a bit discouraged. Right now, our temperature stands at 22Β°, but actually feels like 15Β° and we are talking Fahrenheit, people! Send prayers!!

What about you? How are you doing really? Did you wake up like me? A little bit stressed and a tad bit overwhelmed? Why do I do this to myself, every time? I am a list person, have I told you that before? If not, here it is; I am a list person. The problem is that I am also a control freak (I am really, really working on this). But here is my dilemma. If I write it down, it WILL be done, whatever the cost. So lately, Iβve decided not to write anything down, to help with this issue. Do you see the problem though? Not yet? Okay, let me explainβ¦ the fact that Iβm not writing the tasks down, does not mean that Iβve forgotten about it. Itβs in my head and because itβs there, itβs very disorganized.

Chaos reigns because everything that needs to be done is all in my head and it becomes a bit overwhelming. And because I canβt function without order, I just throw my hands up in the air and do nothing; absolutely nothing. And now everything suffers which causes even more chaos, which therefore becomes overwhelming which causes the stress levels to be elevated! Do you understand the true problem, here? If you find that you are suffering from a similar problem; I have come to the perfect solution. I just need to remind myself hourly (or minute by minute) of these:

Perhaps you have already arrived at the solution, but first let me share the true problem here. I have been attempting to go about life in my own strength! I know!!! Canβt be done, right? Truthfully, I donβt even know when I made the switch from God to me. Suddenly (or what seems like suddenly to me) I found myself becoming more stressed and the more stressed I became, the less I did, which caused more stress. Do you see the cycle?

Although daily I said, βlet THY will be doneβ, I really had not GIVEN the Lord the control reigns; they were still in my hands. Thank the Lord for His faithfulness. Hereβs what Iβve decided to do, if you are in a similar position, especially as the year races to a close, join me on this releasing journey.

Write the list, if youβre like me, we just canβt function without it anyway. Write it down, it will also become our testimony in the future. We will be able to see the Hand of God and tell others of our victories. Letβs write!

Now comes the hard part: with hands open, letβs surrender it all to the Lord. We will say the words out- loud and bold (this may come with some fear and trepidation, but I promise you, this is the key to success). Letβs commit to completing the tasks with the Lordβs help.

Letβs not forget to ask for a good helping of wisdom and grace to complete the tasks, which weβve either committed ourselves to, or to which weβve been called. We will need them both on this journey.

Letβs actually get started with the responsibilities, especially those we donβt want to do. Perhaps like me, you donβt like performing tasks that bring discomfort. Sometimes, the Lord allows it, so that we can rely on Him and not ourselves. We need not shy away from such tasks, even though we would like to do just that.

Letβs also leave time in the day, to enjoy the things and people that bring us pleasure. Letβs make time to laugh (in spite of the snow and cold). Letβs enjoy this life which is so fleeting. Letβs remember that Jesusβ plan was always to bring us life more abundantly.

Have you started this journey of surrender? What brings you stress? How do you handle it?

Letβs continue the conversation over on Instagram. Follow my Instagram and I will follow back, just let me know in the comment section. I would love to meet you π

74 responses to “STRESS! YOU HAVE NO IDEA!!!”
Hi Brenda! 15 is way too cold!!
In October, I began asking my questions differently. I started asking God, βWhat am I not doing that you want me to do.β It took my focus on me and forced me to see myself through His eyes. What a change since then! When I tell you that not much has changed and yet everything has changed, Iβm being honest and saying as much as I can. Itβs totally mind blowing how He changed my MIND and HEART with that one question and then in the last week of the year, after having changed it all without a single thing changing, it ALL came together in this beautiful tapestry of love and awe and blessing that had me on my face before God!
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Amen ππ½ those questions will redirect our focus. Itβs easy to be focused on our selves, learning to depend and trust the Lord is so much harder but so much more fulfilling
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[…] one hundred and one tasks, to which Iβve said βyesβ. I think Iβve already said, (here) that when I am overwhelmed, I have the tendency to do nothing, which is bad; really, really […]
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I have to write everything down too. Itβs stressful trying to keep it all organized in my head. π βοΈ
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amen and then add to that trying to remember it all, if its not written down π π It has to be written down for my sake
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Very captivating post Brenda! Iβve been very mindful of stress lately and honestly probably more aware of the fact that I was struggling with a bad attitude. I realized recently that when I stress I react with anger or irritation with my words at the risk of hurting my loved ones feelings….now that Iβve identified that stress causes me to react negatively Iβm reminding myself Iβve been βequippedβ to not behave this way by the power of the Holy Spirit, I can choose to make good kind choices…itβs very in depth what Iβve discovered and I hope to share it through a future post soon. Thanks for your wonderful encouraging post!!
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Thatβs so very true and some too, reacting with anger or frustration. Stress brings out the worst in me π
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Surrendering our stress to the Lord is excellent advice. Now I need to actually DO it. π Thanks, Brenda.
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Thatβs the hardest part of surrender; actually doing it ππ½ππ½
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Brenda itβs hard to hand those reins of control over to the Lord, especially when we want it done without suffering or pain! Iβm more of the procrastinator myself!
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I can be that too ππ especially if I did not really want to do it, in the first place
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Brenda,
Yes, I’ve been feeling anxious and stressed too. I think part of it is I pay too much attention to the weather forecasts. One solution I found is to take “One day at a time”. I have to be intentional about it, though. Another solution is to pray and to praise the Lord, as the verses you give remind us to do.
I’m a list-maker too, but I think about it differently than I used to. Instead of writing down 12 or 13 things and expecting to get them all done in one day, I figure it may take me 3 or 4 days or even two weeks before some of the items get done, and now, that’s OK. Too many things can mess up my timeline–some are out of my control–and now, rather than stress about it, I wait to see how things play out. I’ve been a perfectionist over the years, and now that takes too much energy, and takes too much possible joy out of my life.
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I am learning, my friend, it has been a slow process, and I must admit every now and then I revert to the old ways. But praise the Lord, I no longer stay there, I too am learning, itβs okay
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I am thankful God is allowing me to see the danger of some mindsets I’ve adopted or “taken in” without really thinking about. Now I see they don’t contribute to being able to love myself or others or God the way He wants me to. I have to keep going back to God for help–but before, I wouldn’t have even done that. It is, as you said, a process. Thank God He loves and values us so!
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Amen and amen to that! Praise the Lord for His love
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Pray without ceasing! Yes sis! I love that verse π
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me too π π although sometimes I find myself stressing first; then praying π
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Thank you so much for this post! I constantly need that reminder. π Iβve been following your blog for a while and appreciate how you add in so many Bible verses to daily life! Thank you for sharing! I followed you on Instagram; my account is @aeiwrites and I blog at http://www.aeiwrites.com. Anyway, thank you again for sharing! Your posts always make me smile!
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Thank you my friend, π π to our wonderful God be all the glory π His Word is the best encourager out there π
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Amen! π
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I just finished a Laura Story Bible study on surrender called, βI Give Up.β It was wonderful and I am still working my way through what I have learned and am still learning.
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such wonderful words, yet just the idea of it can sometimes be so frightening because we are handing the control to Someone else. Sounds like a good one
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I love this! I, too, am a list person and a control freak. Also, a little bit of a perfectionist. If it doesnβt turn out the way I envisioned it in my head or if a wrench got thrown at me and I had to modify said vision, I get really stressed and anxious. Thanks for encouraging me to surrender.
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I most certainly feel you π π hate those wrenches π π but every now and again and again and again the Lord send them our way and reminds us to ‘look up”. or else we keep going with our lists
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I’m a list maker, too, but one thing I have learned is the more I simplify, the shorter and more manageable my list becomes.
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Amen ππ½ I am still learning that writing it down, does not mean it must be done. Iβm leaving space for the Lord to make adjustments
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We had sleet first yesterday, then snow on top of that. Then temps dropped to 10 degrees F plus wind chill factor. Schools had a snow day! First time I can remember having one in November. It did snow on Nov. 12 last year, but I don’t think it stayed on the ground long.
I think the list thing is more personality driven. I made lists until my 2nd child was born. Shortly after, there were too many frustrating unexpected occurrences, and I quit making lists for a l-o-n-g time. I eventually started again for holiday madness. More recently I started making shopping lists again. I have learned in the last couple of years to use Google calendar, as I don’t remember things as well as I used to, or maybe I’m just way busier than I used to be doing a larger variety of different things.
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πππ I think definitely busier lends itself to list making and writing things down will help us remember. I find itβs releasing to write a list, it helps me to function β€οΈ
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My calendar is my list. The one on my phone makes noise when I have something important to do. I write more detail on my paper calendar. I use the two in tandem.
My daughter showed me a great lists app for my phone called “Keep Notes”. I love to use the check boxes for grocery shopping because when you check an item off, it goes to the bottom and can be unchecked for the next shopping trip so you don’t have to write everything out again. It’s a great time saver and keeps me from checking my pantry shelves trying unsuccessfully to imagine what is missing and needs to be replaced.
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Thanks for sharing that app, I think I need it π
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My pleasure, sister! It’s a big help!
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You do have to trust in God but you can do your part. Prioritize the things on your list and be aware the list may not be finished in one day. Next day prioritize again. This has worked for me and I am not worried if I have to move things over for days. Whatever works. AND God is in charge.
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I am learning ππ that writing it down does not mean, it MUST be done. I definitely have to keep reminding myself of this daily… I like what you said about daily priorities. thanks my friend for this comment
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I never saw myself as a control freak, but I may have begun to developer into one. Give it to God…give it to God. <— That's for me. I should post this somewhere so I can see it daily!
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π π π yep it will become our mantra…’give it to God’… π
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This may surprise you. I never make lists π
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No list!!! π How do you remember everything that needs to be done? can’t do without it
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If I forget, it wasn’t that important lol
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π π π I have come to the conclusion that we (women) do not think like that π π My husband certainly thinks like you, but then I’ve been reminding Him of the things he has to do for so long, that it has become part of my tasks π π π
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Do you send him to the store without a list? lol
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Nope, I don’t even send him to store, much easier if I go π
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My gosh! This is me! The key word that you wrote is SURRENDER. Thatβs it plain and simple, surrender daily to Him so that He can be Lord over my life at every moment. So Iβll pray for you and please pray for me β€οΈ
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thank you π I need the prayers and I will pray for you too π surrender: such a simple word, but one that can bring with so much beauty when we surrender to the Lord
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Elfriede here: Speaking from my heart. I have been struggling with “stress” this week too, just felt overwhelmed with my “list”. Also come to the conclusion that I have been trying to DO without the Lord’s help which obviously didn’t succeed. Yesterday I started spending time with Him in the mornings – involving Him in my day before going about my tasks and guess what? Things work out and get done!!! Brenda, thank you for pointing out that HE is there/here to help and guide and carry us through it all. With His help we can keep crossing off our list! Blessings to you, Elfriede
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whenever I am stressed, I realize exactly what I’ve done. I have taken back the tasks into my own hands, I am living life in my strength. It never works out; never!! May the Lord reminds us both of this quickly, when we begin living life on our own again. God bless you, Elfriede
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I can so relate. Such truthful words, thank you. Blessings
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rise the Lord, to Him be all the glory π Great is our God and He can certainly help in our stress levels
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Would you mind following my blog life-loved.blog. I would appreciate it. Thanks
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I would be happy to… why did I think I was already following your blog? Do forgive me π
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Maybe you are because I thought you were but I didnβt see you on my followers list. If you already are forgive me ππ
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nope, don’t worry because I wasn’t, but thanks for telling me about it
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Thank you
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I added the right site I wanted you to follow. My apologies. Not the RA sure but my Christian site. Thanks sorry for inconvenience
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ππ got it
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Today is cleaning day. We don’t make many messes, just the two of us, and we keep things tidy. But somehow dust and grime “just happen,” and today’s the day to get it out. Not looking forward to it, but it’s like laundry or showering: once its done, it feels so much better.
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π π π Oh I love how you added showering in there with cleaning day π π That’s a question I will have to add to list I have for the Lord, when I get to Heaven, How is it that messes are formed, when it’s just the two of us? Where does the guest come from, especially now that its ‘winter’ here? God bless you, my friend
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My to do list has gotten so large that I break down into chunks and try to focus on 3 goals per day.
1. Overdue projects
2. Current projects
3. Future goals list.
God bless you and stay warm. β€
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Love that breakdown π I will have to try it, in that way it becomes even more manageable π Thanks for sharing, God bless you
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So relatable. If it wasnβt on my list Iβll add just so I can cross it offπ€£π€£
Commit our ways to the Lord and let Him direct our steps…..and even better allow those God inspired interruptions. God bless you sweetie, big hugs π
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I confess, I do the same. For every one thing on my list, I do two other things not on the list. So to make it look like I did a lot, I would add the other things I did so I can see more things crossed off. My husband is not a list maker, which means he does nothing, unless I remind him. He realizes he needs to make a list, so he puts two items on that he definetly wants to accomplish that day. I have to give that one to God and my resentment since I have about 10 things on my list that needs to be done.
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π π π Oh my goodness Joyce I most certainly understand. My husband is not list maker (Perhaps its a man’s thing) π π I just remind him of the things that need His attention (If I know them, of course) Perhaps that why we were called to be the “help mate’ π π π
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Different personalities….oh girl my life lol. My hubby is just the opposite, his lists have listππ Iβm like can you just sit a relax a min.
I can get resentful abt him being such a workaholic, if Iβm not careful. God bless youπ€
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π π π Oh my ‘his lists has lists π π I just can’t
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Iβm so serious, pages and pages and then separate category list as wellπ€£π€£π€£
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π π yep, I totally get it π π
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I do the same thing!! π π even if it’s done already, I will add it to the list, just to cross it off π π I thought I was crazy for doing this, thank You Lord, I’m not the only one π π God bless you, my friend
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Lol Same girl same! ππ€£π
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π π Lord, help us π
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Oh my goodness I thought I was the only one that wrote things down that I had gotten done that wasnβt on the list, just so I could cross it off! π
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Nahhhh girl! Welcome to the crazy train π€£π
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π₯°π₯°π₯° weβre all in the same boat
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β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ praise the Lord for community
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