Hey friends, how are you today? Yes, today… how are you doing? Fall is officially here, and we are three months away from a new year, if the Lord allows. It is a cloudy, gloomy and rainy morning, even the birds and the squirrels seek shelter, the silence is almost deafening. I like noise, were you able to figure that out about me? I don’t mind the quiet, but only in small doses. I prefer noise of any kind; voices of people, music will sometimes do, even the thundering of the rain drops. Silence can sometimes leave me with feelings of anxiousness. We will explore the reasons later.

Have the past almost nine months been good to you? There were probably, joyful, jubilant occasions and also times of frustrations and failures. Throughout these times of distress, perhaps on some days, you responded like I do, at times; with anxiety or worry or even misery and anguish.

Very few of us enjoy being around dissatisfied people; people who complain about everything and everyone. They find so little joy in life and sometimes are quite happy to share their discontent with anyone listening. We are almost always listening anyway, because getting a word in, is practically impossible. Most of us would choose not to spend time with unhappy and ungrateful people.

Next on that seat are the passive aggressive people. They say everything is fine, life is good, BUT… they blame others, or things, or circumstances, for everything wrong with their world. Taking responsibility for their circumstances, their behaviors is a foreign concept. I know you can think of at least one person who falls into either of these categories. Maybe that person sounds too familiar? What are we do to do with such individuals?

Wellll… I would hesitantly say that we have all been one of these individuals, at one time or another in our lives. Thankfulness is hard to come by when we are actually going through difficulties. Most of us desire that the Lord rescue us from the emotional, financial or relational pain and “please Lord, do it quickly”. It is almost or should I say, impossible, to be thankful throughout our trials and tribulations, without the help of the Almighty God. We sometimes start off desiring to be thankful, but if the situation lingers, we find out quickly that ‘long suffering’ isn’t a natural trait we possess. It is hard to be thankful because our present situation has overwhelmed us; we are sinking under the weight of our burden. We go to the Lord and present our petitions before Him, but this situation is so consuming, that we have forgotten to be thankful for our blessings. I have done it; I have been there.

Here is a list of a few things I’ve tried and can guarantee does not work! Here is what NOT TO DO:
1. Disbelieve or distrust the promises found in the Word of God (Psalm 27:13,14)
2. Forget to count prior and present blessings (Psalm 78:7)
3. Envy others their allotment (Hebrews 13:5)
4. Feel entitled or deserving of God’s favors (Ephesians 2:8,9)
5. Try to handle or fix problems in our own strength (Proverbs 3:5,6)

6. Believe that this trial is more difficult than another person’s. (Matthew 11:28)
7. Allow the trial to consume every thought and conversation (Matthew 6:24-34)
8. Bring troubles to friends rather than the Lord. (I Peter 5:7)
9. Continually take back burden from the Lord by being anxious and worried (Philippians 4:6)
X. Give the Lord a time frame to answer prayer (Ecclesiastes 3:11)
There is a song sung by Bill and Gloria Gaither, entitled ‘Bigger Than Any Mountain’. It is a good reminder of the power and majesty that belongs to the God we serve!
How do you handle difficulties, when they come your way?

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60 responses to “THESE 10 THINGS, YOU SHOULD NEVER, EVER DO!”
[…] HIS Tapestry) Brenda – These 10 Things You Should Never, Ever, Do! – This list is packed with beautiful and challenging reminders we need to take to heart daily […]
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thank You so very much; to our Gos be praised
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A powerful list of things to keep in mind!!!! ❤ This would be to be placed in an area we see daily!!!
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I have done every one of those things and can guarantee they do NOT work 🙂 🙂 Thank God for new days, where we can do better than the day before 🙂
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very uplifting and encouraging blog
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sorry for the late response, I was absent last week 🙏🏽 Thank you so very much. To our Great God be all the glory
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Oh, Brenda, as usual you have hit the nail on the head (mine!) For eight months while I was undergoing chemo and hospitalization, I was content and trusting God. Now that I am in remission, I am finding life is full of a different kind of trial(s). For one thing, the hearing loss caused by the cancer has not returned. I am using hearing aids, and they help, but if there is ambient noise I can’t even carry on a conversation. OK, now I’m done whining. God is good!! He knows my frustration and is using my hearing loss for His glory. Don’t know exactly how, but I trust in Him.
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🙂 🙂 May the Lord strengthen you immensely, Jo; I would probably whine, just a tad bit too 🙂 🙂 We serve a gracious, good, and kind God 🙂 🙂
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Thanks Brenda! I know I’ve been guilty of some of the things on the list. I really appreciate the verses you provided. God’s Word always has the help we need to come up higher.
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Amen 🙏🏽 the Word of God is complete, lacking nothing 😄😄 thanks my friend. May the Lord bless you
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God bless you too! ❤️
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We haven’t had rain for a while! I kind of enjoy rain on a day where I can then be stuck inside curled up with a book and hot tea, that hasn’t happened in a while though so I feel like I’m daydreaming.
I struggle a bit with number 8 and a lot with number 9!! Eeeekkk!!!
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🙂 🙂 you and me both on #9. I know I haven’t surrendered to the Lord when I become anxious or begin to worry 🙂 Let’s encourage each other 🙂 Have a wonderful day
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Beautiful! God bless you.
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🙂 🙂 Praise the Lord. to our great God be all the glory 🙂 God bless you, my friend
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This was a great list and great reminder of what not to do, especially when we’re seeking things of God. Love how you added scriptures as references.
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🙂 🙂 To our great God be all the glory 🙂 Trusting God is our best defense against life’s trials God bless you, my friend
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Haven’t I been all those you have described? God is so merciful, He allows His Spirit to do a very good job transforming us from the inside out. As for that list, it’s one we should print and hang over our beds 😀
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🙂 🙂 Praise the Lord for His faithfulness, He is always good. I certainly know, I have been there and at times, find myself there again 🙂 May the Lord have mercy
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Amen!
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Encouraging to read that there are other likeminded people out there! As you have said, we go through so many trials, tests, & even tribulations, Jesus did say that “in the world ye shall have tribulation, but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world!” So as you have as good as said, we can overcome all of our troubles, trials, & tests through Jesus and have peace in the midst of any storm. Thank You Jesus!
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There peace and safety amid the storms of life. We can find all these and more in the arms of a Loving and Kind God. Thank you for this comment, may the Lord bless you 🙂
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Encouraging to read that there are others out there who are actually seeking God and at the same time telling others about Jesus. Life is full of trials, troubles, & tribulations and Jesus said, “Be of good cheer for I have overcome the world!” So we can overcome all of our troubles, trials, & tribulations through Him. Praise Jesus!
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🙂 🙂
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Thank you for sharing this, Brenda! We do need to not be passive aggressive and give thanks. He is worthy. Hope you’re well.
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He is worthy, rightly said 🙂 Giving thanks gives us the opportunity to count our blessings, to recall the good things that the Lord has done for us and perhaps also realize He can do it again
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What is impossible for Him?
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🙂 🙂 Absolutely nothing
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I enjoyed reading your post. I am definitely in a season where I am learning to trust God even when life hurts. I’m also learning to cast my every care on him. Thanks for sharing your list with us of things not to do🙏
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🙂 🙂 These things do bring growth to us, they only offer discouragement and disappointments. In Christ, there is freedom. God bless you, I’m happy to ‘meet’ you
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Absolutely! Same here❤
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God bless you 🙂
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Brenda, you offer such grounded, down-to-earth wisdom, in such a girlfriend manner. I just love you. And I love that you put God’s Word with each of your points.
And look at you, with your sunshine smile on a rainy day! 😎
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I am certainly learning to trust Him with and in the rainy days 🙂 🙂 Praise the Lord for His mercy and his faithfulness
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Great post! Love the 10 points! Things to remember.
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praise the Lord, to Him be all the glory; He is surely greatly to be praised 🙂
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I just want to grow so much in God and get to love him in honesty, faithfulness and just who He is
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amen and amen 🙂 I want to join you in on that spiritual journey; we can stand in the gap for each other and encourage each other 🙂 🙂 God bless you, my friend
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That will be lovely. I’ll love to be able to talk to you
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anytime 🙂
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Thank you Brenda for this post and for your godly wisdom, advice and instruction. Blessings! 🤗
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praise the Lord, to Him be all the glory 🙂 He can be trusted with all our difficulties if we would give it to Him and trust Him with it.
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Love this list little sister 🙂
Counting prior blessings helps us to be encouraged in our walk with the Lord 🙂
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amen 🙂 We really can’t walk straight if we are always whining and complaining 🙂 There is very little to be gained anyway 🙂 God bless you my friend
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🙂
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Mindful list of things to not do backed by scripture, which is the best backing one can find. Hard to argue with that😊
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amen 🙂 that’s the best defense, take it up with the Lord 🙂 🙂 🙂 We serve a good God
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Amen! And we know Who is ALWAYS right!😊
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One thing that helps is knowing some have it way worse, and God knows that we can handle it and it will help us grow. Nobody likes trials but focusing on what’s wrong is wrong. Focus on all you have that’s good. This too shall pass.
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amen 🙂 indeed realizing that someone out there is going through something worse, is certainly a great way to be thankful. and being grateful for the good learning to be thankful even for the bad 🙂
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Great list! Amen
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Amen Praise the Lord, to Him be all the glory 🙂 He is great and he is dependable God bless you
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Amen! I admit to having done all of these things, and I am a caregiver for a relative who is masterful at all of these negative traits. However, I’m printing your blog for ME to remember so I don’t duplicate the behavior(s). I can’t change anyone else except me. Great advice backed up with God’s word! Bless!
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🙂 🙂 Praise the Lord for His merciful kindness 🙂 I have certainly been there 🙂 BUT GOD… I’ll pray for you, my friend 🙂 May the Lord bless you abundantly for your work
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Amen! I have done one, or several, of these things. Thankfully God is good and PATIENT! 🙂 God Bless! (Lovely picture of you by the way!)
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amen 🙂 and amen Thankfully He is God, and we are a mere man. Thankfully He remains faithful even in our faithlessness. Who would stand if He should count our iniquity? Ps. 130:3; praise the Lord for His mercy
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Phenomenal ‘word’, spot on and I felt the Spirit on it. Thank you for sharing. God bless you. Thes. 5:11
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🙂 ) Praise the Lord, to Him be all the glory 🙂 He is big enough to solve our problems
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Amen Brenda! That is excellent godly advice! God bless you!
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Praise the Lord, my friend 🙂 Giving our problems to the Lord and resting in His arms is the best antidote out there 🙂
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