5, MAYBE 8 THINGS, I’VE LEARNED WHILE MARRIED

Hey friends, how are you today? How was your weekend? What tasks did you perform, what events did you attend?  We went to NYC over the weekend.  We had the best time spent with our family.  We did so much and yet so little in that short space of time.  It was definitely a time well spent.  We talked and laughed and caught up with each other. We loved on the newest addition to the family, he is a beautiful, chunky, happy, baby boy.  His big brother had lost all signs of shyness, from our last visit, and shared with us, tidbits of his life.  Then we all (except Benny) had our nails done, by our superb cousin, friend and nail artist.  Of course, one does not go to NYC without enjoying a bit of shopping.  Even the traffic in and out of city was surprisingly easy and flowing, for a minute there, we thought the GPS had failed us. A good time was had by all, even my sweet husband, who really, really hates the city, but will endure it for our sake. A great husband is hard to find, I’ll endeavor to keep mine.  

Wow! You know it’s going to be a scorching, bright, sunny day, when the cicadas are so loud, the sound interrupts your thoughts. I know it will be a great day today, because the Lord woke us up this morning.  I know it will be a great day, because there’s food on my table, shoes (I’ve added a few more) on our feet and clothes (I’ve added a few more) on our backs. I know it is a good day, because my God still sits on the throne of the universe, He is still Lord and Master of my life.  I know it is a good day, because today is our 25thwedding anniversary.  Whooo…whooo. can you see me waving my hands? The Lord is good and gracious and kind and wonderful and merciful.   I wish I could say that it was an easy 25 years, but it wasn’t, there was way too much selfishness. He gets all the glory, because too many times, there were too many words spoken, but not enough said. To my great God be all the praise, because there was way too much pride, on both sides. All the glory, all the praise belongs to our faithful and true God.  

Where would I be today, if I had not leant one thing along the way, right? Thankfully I learnt not one, but five things throughout the last 24 years, that prayerfully, I will implement in our 25th.  

Marriage is a union between three people, with God at the helm of this union.  The closer I draw to the Lord, inevitably the closer I become with my spouse.  

A wife isn’t who I am; it isn’t my identity. I am first and foremost a Christian, a servant of the Most High God.  My allegiance is to Him first, believe it or not, I am a better wife, when I remember that.    

My performance of the roles, to which I’ve been commissioned, in this relationship is not dependent on my husband, or on his performance. Obedience to the Word of God is not optional.

This one took me by surprise too, but my husband’s role isn’t to make me happy.  Shocking, I know; but really, happiness and joy is intrinsic and comes from the Lord. I ‘wife’ better, when I do not expect my husband to make me happy, but rather when I am already happy and joyful, which of course, is assured when my relationship with the Lord is properly aligned. 

Marriage is an institution created by God, for His glory.  Yeah, yeah, this one took me quite a few years to learn, sometimes I admit I still forget, and glimpses of selfishness will poke through everyone in a while. Okay, okay… there are quite a few opportunities when selfishness will have its moment.  As a matter of fact, there’s usually a daily sighting.  

This one is free: ladies, watch the thoughts that creep into our heads.  Be aware! We have a subtle and sly enemy.  Don’t dwell on the negative, be swift to forgive and quick to apply much grace and mercy, don’t worry, you too will soon be in need of more grace and mercy. 

Communication is key, don’t assume he knows.  I will tell you now, he doesn’t. Speak up, watch the tone, and choose carefully, the battles.  Believe it or not, just because you think it, doesn’t mean it has to be said. My pastor has this saying, “there are three sides to every story – my side, their side and the truth”.  Don’t believe every insidious, thought.  

And lastly, our spouse isn’t a child; if you’re like me, perhaps you needed a (sometimes, not so gentle) reminder along the way.  Do not refer to him, nor lump him with the boys.  And please if you have to compare him, do so with King Solomon.  He was wise and rich.  

Okay, I know I said five, but obviously there are a total of eight.  Happy anniversary to me, thank You, almighty God. Today is a date kind of day, right, except we usually take the girls with us.  Who else does that?  Let me know in the comments.

How are you today and what are your plans?

I’d love to meet you over on Instagram. Follow my page and I promise to follow back, Let’s continue the conversation. Here’s the link

Processing…
Success! You're on the list.

Advertisements