Hey there friends, how are you doing?  How was your week? Just maybe you know by now, I absolutely love spring.  Sunday’s snow storm brought about five inches of snow, not much when compared to winter’s actual snow storms.  But the beauty of spring time signifies beautiful sunlight, even at 37° the snow starts the melting process.  Yep! I love spring, I can even handle the occasional snow squalls, because it’s spring. Winter is really fighting a losing battle, isn’t it? She may try to hang on for dear life, but eventually she must give way to spring.  Winter must be a ‘she’ I think.  Think about it… we are absolutely beautiful; stunning really.  We are soft, but we can sometimes be fickle, lead by our emotions, which can cause us to either be gentle or harsh.  We, sometimes, outstay our welcome; we ensure we are not easily forgotten. But eventually we will give in gracefully.  Yep! Winter is a ‘she’. What do you think? Is winter a ‘she’ or ‘he’?

Do you believe there is a God? Do you believe He is all powerful? Do you believe He cares for you? Do you believe He loves you, unconditionally, unwaveringly and unfailingly? Do you trust Him? Do you believe that? Really… do you undoubtedly, unquestionably, surely believe that? What’s your instinctive reaction when troubles and trials come your way? Do you immediately, with open hands, surrender them and the final outcome to the Lord?

I think if we are honest with ourselves, the answer would probably be ‘no’. It’s not that I don’t want to, but trusting the Lord takes time. Yes, I believe unequivocally that my God does exist.  I believe that He is all powerful, but sometimes, although I don’t always realize this at the time, I don’t always believe He cares for me, nor do I believe He loves me, and He wants the best for me.  I love this verse in Psalms 73:2

 Did you know that Sarah, Abraham’s wife, and let’s not forget Moses, and who could forget Thomas, also had difficulty in totally trusting the Lord? Sometimes it’s refreshing to know that my struggle isn’t a new thing.  I grapple with the fact that my time isn’t always God’s time.  I struggle when I pray for something and years later, I am still praying for that very request.  Yes, I’ve seen the faithfulness of my great God throughout the years, but sometimes when a new trial rises as a result of this request, my instinctive reaction is to doubt His care.  It is so hard to trust in the silence. It is so difficult to believe in the silence. Sometimes the desire to hold firm, to keep the faith is nowhere to be found. Instinctively I find myself securing my heart to keep me from the pain of unanswered prayer.  I question His love and care.  “If He cares”, I wonder, “why hasn’t He answered this prayer?”  Unanswered prayers can lead to frustrations and even anger at times.  It can also lead to depression and anxiety.  Does God not care? Does He not realize how desperately we want this? How important it is to us? Have you ever asked these questions? Perhaps for this wayward child? Or is it for the salvation of a spouse or dear friend? What should our response be when God is silent?

There is nothing more detrimental to a Christian when he gives up on God.  Yet there are so many, who wonder into this forlorn space.  Can I share a secret with you? This happens when what I desire is greater than my desire for God Himself.  When this ‘thing’ supersedes God and moves to the first place in my heart, then unanswered prayer becomes the ultimate crushing blow.

There is also another response to unanswered prayer; apathy. In order to protect ourselves from the pain, we detach, we determine to feel nothing, to be indifferent.  Prayer becomes, “well You are going to do what You want anyway…”.  Prayer is surface and unintentional.  I know, I’ve been there.  I must admit, I am not the perfect Christian. I suppose that’s why I can tell you today of my Heavenly Father’s faithfulness.

If you are there, don’t stay there, friend.  Surrender that desire to the Lord, give it to Him.  Let Him keep that request safe.  Don’t place a time limit, trust Him and believe Him for the best outcome. Believe that whatever His plans are for you, they are great and wonderful.  Trust Him with that child, spouse, job, finance, health.  Trust Him more…

How do you respond to answered prayer? 

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  1. In Proverbs wisdom is called a woman a she. So I will concede that winter can be a woman as well. Your post is delightful. I find consolation in seeing that you are troubled by many of my own troubles. It always feels so good to know that someone else is passing through the very same trials as we ourselves are. It takes away the loneliness and solitude that we otherwise experience. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I receive them because wisdom is a woman as you also are. Keep being a woman who shares wisdom with all who care to listen. God bless you and your family in Jesus’ name.

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  2. Good advice! As we mature we learn to leave our prayers at his throne, knowing his decision in the matter (his will) is what is truly best for us, even if his will is that we must with patience wait for his answer! But, ultimately, what you shared about not desiring anything more than we desire God, not putting anything else in ‘first place’ in our hearts, is when we are standing on the bedrock of true peace!
    Ron Bouchard

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  3. Brenda, I have felt like this many times and taken God’s silence as Him turning His back on me. Then I fall into the trap of, “why even pray? What’s the point?”. Sometimes I just didn’t get the answer I wanted and sometimes I wasn’t ready for God’s answer so He patiently allowed me to “wait”, and somethings I’m still waiting on. But I know He works all things for the good. Thank you for your post!

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  4. Great reminder especially with my recent post! I’m so glad we can read in the Bible of others who struggled ..and that God’s word provides answers, hope, and reassurance!! We just need to keep plugged in no matter what ails us!!!

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  5. A yes from God causes me to celebrate right away. A no from God I can get over perhaps after a bit of sulking. Wait is hard but there can be so many reasons for an answer of wait. Maybe I am not ready yet. Maybe others involved are not ready yet. SO many possibilities for an answer of wait. When the answer is wait, I need to remember he is God and I am not and trust in him.

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  6. Oh, and doesn’t it all boil down to what Satan told Eve in the garden: “You will be like God.” In our flesh, we want to be like God, to believe that our opinions, our ideas, our solutions are just as good as His, and He’s not doing what we think is right. Oh, what sin!
    I do appreciate reading your posts – every time! You bring beautiful light to God and His Word.

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  7. AMEN! I have several unanswered prayers that I am constantly praying over and over. It can be so hard sometimes when we feel like why oh why hasn’t God answered this request yet? I know He wants what is best for me (Jeremiah 29:11 has become a new favorite of mine) and our family, but sometimes it’s hard…really hard! Thank you for this reminder. Whenever we do have an answered prayer, I am SO so grateful. We try and make sure our kids see us thanking God for an answered prayer so that hopefully they will see that God does answer…just not always on OUR time 😉 God Bless!

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    • Amen 🙏🏽 and the having the kids participate in this kind of prayer will certainly strengthen their fAith in the Lord, I see it in our kids. Trusting the Lord is definitely a personal thing, but we can certainly encourage each other on this journey


  8. Hi Brenda! Good to read this today as I am struggling with some unanswered prayers right now (again). Maybe the answer is “wait…not yet” bu it’s sometimes hard for us to wait on the Lord! We must remember that He is our loving Father who will provide and that He is also our Lord to whom we need to submit, even when we don’t understand.

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  9. This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it. Every day! My mom died three weeks ago, my brother and I spoke the eulogy. We were blessed to listen to so many people talk about our mom. Even though we all miss her, we still shout: this is the day.

    Keep up the good word.

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  10. Brenda, have you been reading my mind?

    Why, oh why do I hold onto a problem I can’t fix instead of giving it to God who can and will bring something good out of it?

    Blessings on you and yours!

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    • I know that feeling and desire. It’s instinctive to fix, allowing the Lord to perform His will though is always the best and eventually we get there. It may take us a minute, but we will get there. Trusting the Lord is one rung at a time


  11. Amen! I have felt like that before. Mainly when I was dealing with the intense suffering from Celiac in the first few years of it. God is faithful and He never left me and He saw me through all of it. May His will be done! God bless!

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