Hey friends, how are you today? How was your week? We had the most glorious weekend.  The weather was fantastic, on Sunday our temperatures soared to a beautiful 75 degrees.  Although today winter has seemingly returned.  But that’s okay because spring is right around the corner.  Anyway, enough about the weather, how was your weekend?

Some days I like to think of myself as a logical, analytical person.   But truthfully, this is not my nature.  I have come to the conclusion that although I wish it was untrue, I am a very emotional person.  My feelings have been known to order my steps a few times. I even cry when my favorite person dies in a movie, for crying out loud!  For this reason, I detest movies without a happy ending.  My philosophy is quite simple, my reality has enough sorrow, I need my make-believe not bring me anymore sadness.  I do not watch movies about war or about race because then I become angry or sad, because then my emotions become entangled.

And every once in a while, situations come into our lives and bring with it such an amalgamation of feelings that its description is almost impossible to verbalize. Feelings that consume and literally want to take over life as we know it. Feelings so big, it is almost suffocating. Feelings that threatened to drown out truth and give fear the upper hand.  Feelings that need to be unraveled and each one explained and reason out.  

Recently I had such an incident, where my emotions battled for supremacy and admittedly for a minute (just for a minute) I gave it free reign.   I tried to unravel these overwhelming emotions on my own and every time I thought I had it together, there it came again, seeking the light like an alien being.  I just could not control these feelings.  Because they were so many, every other incident just added to the already existing ones. Anger, frustration, bitterness, disappointment, sadness, all there like writhing snakes, each seeking to dominate but none will surrender.  I knew that if I allowed these feelings control of my actions, I would hurt someone, perhaps not physically but definitely emotionally and even mentally and spiritually.  And there we go again… hurting people hurt people.  

But I didn’t want that to be my story.  I want to exercise this trait that eludes me at times, self-control.  I also know that though this implies the idea that I could control this emotional self, I knew that on my own I didn’t have that ability and certainly not soon enough to not cause pain to those around me.  

A friend of mine shared this quote with me when I tried to complain. Notice the word ‘tried”, because good friends, ensure you are heard but that you also hear the truth.  As Christians, godly friends are important.  They help us keep our eyes on the Lord.  They motivate, they encourage, they push us to become successful and mature Christians.  This life was never meant to be travelled alone.  We need other God-fearing people.  Well… that’s for the people in the back.  This is what was shared with me; “Never let a good crisis go to waste” Winston Churchill and I recently came across this one “No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted” (perhaps that should say; ‘should not be wasted). “It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility” (Orson Whitney). 

I have also realized these feelings have the tendency to overwhelm when I insist on grasping that ever elusive control of my situation. When I refuse to surrender my will to the Lord and give Him full authority in my life then my emotions threaten to control my actions.  But God…

One by one find the source of each emotion, identify the reason for each and surrender it to the Lord.  And secondly surrender the situation or situations that brought these emotions to the forefront.  And then thirdly set up a plan of action to combat these emotions when they threaten to appear again in the future.  Because dear friends, the truth is we have not yet arrived, and today’s experiences become tomorrow’s testimony.   

When feelings threaten to overwhelm, how do you cope?

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  1. I am often afraid of my feelings, that I will let them show at the wrong time or offend. I prefer to have them in control but that is not how Jesus did it. He cried, He got angry, He was sad, He was lonely, all the emotions we feel, He felt. Oh to have totally freedom, that’s heaven isn’t it.

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  2. When I realize negative feelings are rising up, I ask God to help me see things from His perspective. It can be difficult because feelings can be so strong, but He is faithful to help me when I ask.

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  3. When feelings threaten to overwhelm, how do you cope?
    I retreat where I can pray, if possible. I ask God what the root of the feelings are. If I need to repent, I do. If I need His help to release the feelings, I ask! Sometimes it is just a process. Show me, Lord! How do I surrender this to you.

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  4. This’ll be one I need to read daily for a while…great post Brenda!! My counselor is currently having me do consistent emotion checks…paying attention to those feelings…the more time I spend in Gods word and in prayer the better (more positive) my feelings are!❤️

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  5. I enjoyed this blog. God had to gather me together earlier this week and remind me he is in charge. Our emotions are a thermostat to let us know what is going on but they are not supposed to control us. Your scriptures were spot on. I was trying to write when God told me to sit back and receive from trusted sources. I feel so enriched. Thank you!

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  6. My neighbor had a bubble making machine in her yard for her 3 year olds birthday party last weekend. Those bubbles looked innocent enough when they tumbled out rapidly, but they left a wet and soapy film all over your body and clothes if you got too close. Lately, my feelings are like that bubble machine. I am a storm that has been brewing for two years and my bubble machine is about to blow! Like you, Brenda, I don’t watch movies that are disturbing, but we have a real life movie that is happening in our world and it is impossible to avoid. We need Jesus and truth talkers that are strong in the Lord. With open arms, I ask for you to send them Lord, to me, to all whose hearts are in a state (me) and need you. Amen.

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  7. About twelve years ago during a difficult chapter in my life, God gave me the opportunity to practice taking my (emotional) thoughts captive and making them obedient to Christ’s wise ways (2 Corinthians 10:5). Philippians 4:8 certainly gave me plenty of ideas to get me started toward positivity. But I must admit, many times I’d be wallowing in a cesspool of negativity (hurt, anger, self-pity, doubt and questions), before the Spirit would finally get my attention and remind me where my thoughts were supposed to be! II have to admit, it was a tough battle. But over time my descents in the cesspool grew shorter. Praise God for his consistent, patient training!

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  8. “It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship.” Henry Ward Beecher
    ❤️&🙏, c.a.

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  9. Another great post, Brenda; spoken, as it only can be, by a woman who knows God’s Word. When we have the Truth of God under our belts, then we have the knowledge and tools to understand that there is a different way than succumbing to our feelings. God’s Truth, and His Spirit, give us the strength and wisdom to overcome; He has already overcome the world.

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  10. Some of my favorite verses you’ve quoted… When I complain, my best friend looks at me and says “Why should it be easy for you??” Thud!! I drop back into reality. As you say, we have not arrived… but soon we shall see our Saviour face to face… Hallelujah!!

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