Hey friends how are you doing? Did you have a  good week? We decided to take the week off, last week, to spend some time with the each other. It was a beautiful week; perfect weather, great company, filled with laughter and harmony. We took the time to explore New York with the girls and Benny and I also found lots of opportunities to play golf.  On Thursday, we also celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary.  I still feel too young to have been married for 26 years.  I have spent more time with this man than I have spent without him in my life, for which I am very thankful.  

I could not ask the Lord for a better husband for me, he is my perfect mate.  He is patient with me and anyone who knows me, understands the degree to which this man is patient.  I have a few female friends who believe that if their husbands were like Benny, their marriage would be almost perfect.  I do endeavor to remind them that he isn’t in this relationship alone, that I’m there too and I’m doing my part.  But for reasons unknown to me, they are of the unfounded opinion that the stability of our union is all hubby’s  doing.  And they come to me for advice! What do I know? Apparently, I’m just there for the ride, or to look good, right? 

On the other hand, I’m not very patient.  I have a ‘want it now’ personality.  When I have an idea, I want to initiate it immediately and I like immediate results.  Waiting is not in my DNA; my darling husband has leant to carefully inform me of decisions that will not occur promptly.  I really, really hate to wait. But the Lord has been hard at work with this character flaw of mine. Sometimes, I think the Lord delights in ignoring my timelines.  I make my list, I check it twice; there are a few items on my list that comes with a deadline (as a matter of fact,I’m praying about one such matter now). What is wrong with my timeframe? 

A few years ago, I had an epiphany. We always think we trust the Lord, until it’s been proven that we don’t.  Trust is a trait that is obtained under pressure.  My reaction to my “untimely unanswered prayer determines whether I trust God or not.  And when I’ve been called to wait and wait and, wait some more, and more, and more for something that doesn’t arrive, on the day I thought it should, if impatience and frustration or anger is my reaction, then surely I’ve not trusted the Lord as I thought I did.

The Lord allows curveballs into our lives to prove to us, as Christians, that we need to trust Him more.  Trust in God is a very necessary component in our walk with the Lord.  Every aspect of our lives, including that of salvation demands trust.  We can’t see our salvation, we can’t touch it, we had to be told by someone, or perhaps we read a book a few thousand years old, yet we trust the work of the Lord, Jesus Christ for our salvation.  We were not there yet we believe a historical account of the matter. 

If we can trust for our salvation; the most foundational aspect of who we are, then why do I find it so hard to trust the Lord, for most of what can be considered temporary in this life? 

Perhaps we wait for a job, or perhaps a husband (I’m keeping mine) or a house or financial security, the God that brought salvation to the human race is more than capable of supplying me with all that I need.  Trust in God displays itself with patience, peace, joy, meekness, self-control, to name a few.  Trust in God puts others first. Trust in God finds no pleasure in selfishness and conceit.  Rather it delights in love and compassion and mercy.  Trust in God is quick to forgive and extends grace.  Trust waits… does it not? 

Since we moved to this house, my husband has renovated the fireplace, the kitchen, the bathrooms, the front porch and has built me a whole closet.  On each occasion, I began with prayer that the Lord would grant me patience.  I am a duct tape kind of girl, my husband is the check it ten times then cut, (some of you know exactly what I mean). Every-time he completes each project, I am absolutely delighted with the results.  The length of time he took has been forgotten, because it is exactly what I wanted, every time.  

The Lord has always answered every prayer at the right time.  He is never, ever late and there are never any disappointments. It is always exactly what I needed, when I needed it and it’s always a blessing to those around me. Then I can boast in the work He has done in my life.  That’s what happens, when I don’t attempt to fix things my way, with duct tape.  

Waiting has not become easier, but I realize now how absolutely necessary it is to prove my trust in the Lord. 

How do you wait? Yep, I said.. how?

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  1. You and your husband sound exactly like me and my husband, except he is incapable of building or doing any of the project your husband does! However, he is kind and patient and has the wisdom to hire just the right team for such a project! I, like you, am not a good “waiter.” But I have learned to wait on the Lord on so many things. One prayer I’ve prayed for over 20 years. The water is getting muddier, rather than clearer, but I have to trust in God that it’s part of His plan! What I tell myself is “who better to trust than God?” That’s my ‘how’ and I still need work on following that plan!

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  2. Patience is a virtue, one which we can be all too quick to abandon when our timeline is not met. God knows what is best for us, and will guide us there. We need only keep praying, and working on improving our intentional patience.

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  3. “The Lord allows curveballs into our lives to prove to us, as Christians, that we need to trust Him more.” This was my favorite quote of this post. Happy anniversary! You do look too young to have 26 years of marriage under your belt. Thank you for this honest and transparent post. I used to be extremely impatient. God had to humble me and show me my way was not the right way. I have come a long way. I am not perfect. I have been tested in that area to see my growth. I told God recently I am still waiting on things he promised me. I am standing in faith as I wait. This post encouraged my soul and was timely. Thank you for sharing your heart. Your home is beautiful.

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  4. Congratulations on 26 years. Thank you, this was uplifting. Yes, trusting in others or being trusted back is challenging. It’s not simple and takes a lot of time, patience and perseverance. Trusting in God should be easy, and I don’t say that lightly but based purely on faith in God. He created me and placed me here on earth for a purpose because he trusts me. All I have to do is trust Him back, and not let the things of this world keep me from doing that. Thank you again

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  5. How do I wait? Wow, that’s a question. I am more patient than was when I was younger. My husband often starts projects, has to stop for seasons, and might finish it a year or two down the road. I think I have started to ask for something or find words to articulate how I feel, but then I put them out of my mind in order to be able to focus on the now. Recently there was something that God said, “Hey, do you remember asking for this? It has been a long time, but the time is now.” I was pleasantly surprised. 🙂


  6. Lord, give me patience….and I want it NOW! 😉 I also find it hard to wait for husband to complete house projects. We’re in the middle of one right now and it’s temporarily on hold as there is also a farm project to be done outside…sigh. Thanks, Brenda, I needed this.

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  7. Mostly I occupy while waiting. But this comes after several years of running ahead of the Lord, doing before it’s supposed to be done. I do confess still I may rush in when I need to be still and wait.

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  8. Smiles. I can relate. We really do not know if we trust God until that prayer gets delayed. But each day we keep moving forward and growing in faith. Our reaction to such times it seems we are encountering a delay truly states if we are trusting Him or not.

    Aww. Lovely at the fireplace. 😊

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  9. Congratulations on 26 years! We hit 15 this year. Trust. Oh my. I am working on it. I hope and think I have become a bit more patient. There are a lot of things that I am waiting on and praying about, but I feel like I am not AS impatient. I am still impatient, just not as bad…I hope, lol. God Bless!

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  10. Congratulations on 26 years!
    This post resonates so much with me, I am the same way with being impatient. It’s a work in progress for sure. Thank you for sharing 💖

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  11. Congratulations on the 26 years! Liz and I were married 48 years, you are on the way! She always said it was a deep compliment when people trusted you for advice. Everyone came to her for advice on everything, not me! LOL. I too am the impatient one. Great article!

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  12. “Apparently, I’m just there for the ride, or to look good, right? ” 🤣 Oh, Brenda, you arm candy, you!
    Your words on trusting the Lord reminded me of my devotions this morning, in Proverbs 31.
    The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life… Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land…. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
    I envision you as such a woman. Thank you for the words of wisdom that you shower upon us. I can just hardly wait to meet you in heaven.

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    • This passage of scripture of wrought so much change in my life, I have began to regard it as my personal challenge from God to become her. What an occasion it will be when we finally meet 😂😂 I thank the Lord for such assurances

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  13. Learning to wait has been a journey for me, something which I continue to find new ways to surrender my will to the LORD’s. He is so patient with me and so faithful. I praise God for His lessons in waiting. Loved your post. Thank you for sharing! God bless you and yours.

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  14. I am the same as you. I am so impatient at times, I’d rather have it or do it now than wait. Learning to wait is something that I’ve been doing this year. It wont happen overnight but I know that through God he can help us with it!

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