KIDS; NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART

Hey friends, how are you today? It has been raining since Sunday.  The Lord and I talked about that, this morning.  Of course, He already knew, but I thought I would just remind Him that it has been dark, gloomy, dreary and rainy since Sunday.  I said I would be most grateful for a sunny, 70° Tuesday, instead of a rainy, 42° one, but He said, “Look up, child”.  

‘still cloudy, Lord, but I will be thankful in spite of the clouds”

So, I did, and I said, ‘thank you, Lord for the rain. I will wear my boots instead of my opened toes heels and my umbrella and I’m sure it will be a good day. I will be thankful, it isn’t snowing.  What’s the weather like, in your neck of the woods?  

Did you know kids are a gift from God Almighty Himself? In spite of the circumstances surrounding their birth; all kids are a gift from God.  EVERY.SINGLE.ONE.OF.THEM. They are His gifts to mankind.  They are uniquely created by Him and for Him. They are loved by Him. They are given to us to bring Him; and Him alone, glory. Children are one of the few gifts, given by the Lord to us, that comes with a guide.  It’s also one of the few gifts that comes with an expiration date. For some the strings are loosened earlier than others. But most must leave the nest.  

my babies

Psalm 127: 3 Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.

The Lord has given us the privilege of being parents for almost twenty-one years now.  Why does that suddenly make me feel old? Ladies, it is a privilege to be called mommy.  Being a mom is one of the few roles that will draw us closer to the Lord. Do you know the Lord rewards obedience? At times, I am amazed at the goodness of our great God.  Obedience benefits me; it allows me a liberty in my testimony that would surely be non-existent without it.  Obedience grows me in my walk with the Lord.  And the Lord continues to give by blessing me, when I obey.  

Quite a few years ago, my husband suggested that we homeschool our kids.  That was more than twelves years ago, when homeschooling was just gaining traction.  Honestly, I did not want to homeschool.  The thought of taking responsibility for the education of our kids was absolutely frightening, although I was a teacher.  I wanted to know how long we would do this, but he said, we will take it one day at a time.  ‘One day at a time!’ What does that mean? I’ve told you before, I like to plan and have some semblance of control.   Are we talking kindergarten, first and second grade? Because that’s as far as my teaching experience went.

2018 Freshman ~ all packed and ready to go

  My biggest fear was that the girls would not go to college.  But the Lord has this thing that He does, I really don’t know how else to explain it. He takes that fear and that obedience, and He says, “look up, child”.  And I did. I told Him, “pretty please Father, don’t make our girls hate me; don’t make me dislike our girls” (24 hours/seven days a week can do that). My God did more than that though, He actually went a step further and gave us a relationship that still surprises me today.   These girls still talk to me almost every day even at college.  And then He went even further and gave to, not one, but both girls received academic scholarships, in the form of free tuition, to their college. To our great and mighty God be all the glory. He alone did this; so that His Name could be glorified.   Both girls are presently at home from college, thankfully, they attend the same college.   The Lord has had to continually remind me of these facts: 

Children come to us equipped with their sinful nature. It is OUR responsibility to show and tell them about the Lord. After all, we are still struggling with that nature ourselves, are we not?

Having children will constantly cause us to evaluate ourselves. (Please Lord, don’t make them be like me)

In the image of God, they were formed and for His glory. Although children are gifts from God, they are not ours to mold and shape into our image (mimi me, anyone?) 

Let us not confused the issue. Although we may love our pets; children are people, not pets. This should never be confused.  Eternity is at stake.  

Delight in your kids because they have very long memories, I can assure you, they forget nothing.  Be very careful what you say, and what you do.  Treat them well, because they have the tendency to remember the bad rather than the good.  I wonder where they got that from? 

Discipline has become almost a taboo word in today’s world.  But let me assure it is impossible to raise godly children without it. Don’t worry, I didn’t say it first. Here is what the Word of God has to say about that! Proverbs 13:24 He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.  We are not perfect. We are not going to be perfect parents.  There is enough grace from the Lord to go around. But our greatest responsibility as parents is to raise godly kids. That’s the objective of this role as parents.   Sin in a child is a heart issue, just like their parents. Treat it as such.  Make the Word of God the standard for raising godly children. Oxymoron? In my defense, you would be surprised at the number of people desiring ‘good’ kids without the Bible. Impossible task!

We made a discovery when disciplining the girls. They were more likely to respond favorably when the Word of God became the standard. Pleasing God is more important to them, than pleasing mom and dad.  As parents, this also helps us to avoid sweating the small stuff. If it’s not a sin, is it really that important? You decide! Have a blessed day.  What are some of your own parenting styles? 

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