Hey friends, how are you today? Today is going to be a scotching 92ยฐ. I do find it difficult to complain about the heat.ย Winter is inevitable in my neck of the woods and we measure snow in feet.ย It gets very dark and very gloomy and very snowy.ย The roads become more treacherous and itโs always cold, right into the first three to four and sometimes even five months of the year. I am very thankful for this warm weather the Lord has given us.ย I do appreciate the fact that we enjoy four seasons over here, even though I am quite convinced that Spring and Fall do not hang around for their complete cycle.ย Whatโs your weather like in your neck of the woods?ย Marriage is a beautiful institution created by God to bring Him glory.ย We honor the Lord when we allow Him to use our marriage to draw us closer Himself.ย We glorify God not because we make Him any more God or any less God.ย We do not make Him bigger nor can we make Him smaller.ย We do not add anything to His stature nor can we take away anything from Him.ย We glorify the Lord so that our friends and family can see His works in our lives. His glory is our testimony to a world in dire need of hope and love and forgiveness.
Here are a few lessons other bloggers have learnt on this journey called marriage; some will bring laughter, but all will have you shaking your heard in agreement. ย ย Please go ahead; visit their blogs to get to know them. Do let them know we sent you over.ย The overarching theme in these lessons is definite: PUT GOD FIRST!
Mary atย ย maryaperezย โNo marriage is so good that it cannot be made better.โ (Can I get an amen?)
Jennifer at Tea with Jennifer said โWe have learnt in marriage, always pray together just before sleep, ending with a kiss good night. You canโt stay annoyed, angry or upset with the other then!โ
Tina at Godโs kid speaks said โForgiveness is a big one. Learning to let go of the things we do that hurt each other, even if it was accidental or unintentionalโฆWeโve learned peace and understandingโฆjoyโฆlaughter. Laughing at yourself is a good lesson. Team workโฆunityโฆ loyaltyโฆfaithfulnessโฆrespectโฆ accountabilityโฆand probably the best lesson weโve learned is to put God first.โ
Rose @ roses at dawn said โCommunication!!! Life is so much sweeter when I remember that my way is not always the right way. Supporting each other through thick and thin is not always easy, sometimes you are giving 110%, sometimes he is. Sometimes it is half and half. (This is one of my husbandโs thoughts on marriage, but he is so right!) But that is part of marriage and learning to put someone elseโs needs before your own. Marriage has taught and continues to teach me to be unselfish. Itโs a lot of hard work, but oh so very worth it! Marriage has brought me closer to God. Marriage is Godโs gift to us
The Christian Blog Ghana said โI have come to understand that I also need to go on my knees and put my personal petitions before God and things are working out.โ
Cindy Ingalls of Prime Beauty Blogย said, โItโs important to remember you are part of a team. Being married means working together while also giving each other space to grow as individuals.โ
Loved by the King of Kings โ ย โPray for your husband. Even if he is in a bad mood or says something mean, pray for him.โ
My Treasured Faith ย – โConsider the other persons feelings. Really think about how they are feeling when they say โIโm tired today, Iโm depressed today, Iโm just mentally drained todayโ and then do something for them โ a back rub, a foot rub ( oh yes!), bring them their favorite beverage/snack, etc. โ even if you donโt really feel like it. Marriage is about both giving 100% /100 not 50/50. Sometimes one canโt give 100, but if both are giving- the โbankโ is never emptyโ
Vivian at Godโs Whispers of Truth, โIโm learning to be a better listener and less whiney.โ (love that word: less)
Barbara Lane at Barbara lane blog, โMy friendship with my husband is the most valuable and lasting part of our relationship. I canโt think of anyone I would rather โhang outโ with than him. It is so important to work at keeping that friendship aliveโ
Believe4127 said โI was to be the wife He wanted me to be, no matter whether my husband was the husband I thought he should be. Also, I came to know my happiness was not my husbandโs responsibility, nor was it my responsibility to make him happy. That happiness or contentment comes from the Lord.โ
Lynn of Mad Hatter Poetry โ โRemember Godโs amazing grace and extend GRACE to your spouseโฆbe the first to say sorry, the first to forgiveโ.
Erika of concrete detail blog โ โmarriage is not 50/50 it is 100%/100%. You give a hundred percent even if he is only giving 10. It is about how you respond not how he does. You can only control your actions, not his.โ
And finally these tips are from my friend Sonya.ย She has been married for 19 years, here are 5 lessons she has learnt throughout this time:
- Marriage is like a triangle, with God at the top.ย As you move closer to God, you move closer to each other.
- Donโt sweat the small stuff.
- Learn to put your spouseโs needs before your own. It doesnโt mean you forget about yourself.
- Try to eat dinner together most evenings.
- Always take care of yourself.
Life tends to be messy at times, especially in marriage. Friends, nothing takes our Lord by surprise.ย Take it all to Him, lay it at His feet.ย He can handle it!!ย How are you doing?
49 responses to “RECAP & A FEW HIGHLIGHTS”
Thank you Brenda. I have really enjoyed your advise and your blog in general. May God bless you for now I know where to get tips when I get married!
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๐๐๐ they will certainly help; thank you for commenting, May the Lord bless you
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Amen! After All I have gone through as I have shared in my blog, Jesus deserves all the praise. He needs to be the center of our Lives for everything to work out.
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amen
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Amen You two are a beautiful example of what marriage is and so glad that their are others that understand that marriage is a Godly institution Many blessings to you both and you God speed
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Amen ๐๐ฝ to our God be the glory ๐๐ marriage is Godโs institution indeed. We bring Him glory when we use it (our marriage) to point others to Him
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Thanks for sharing this encouragement at Booknificent Thursday on Mommynificent.com!
Tina
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Thank you for the opportunity to share my post
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Love these nuggets of truth. Someone needs to make these into a poster that I can hang in my house. Beautiful quotes from a collection of beautiful bloggers.
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We do serve a good and faithful God Who makes it possible for us, His people, to be in different places with different lives, yet we are able to learn so much from each other. Praise the Lord!
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Brenda, I just got a delightful surprise above, โฅ
What a lovely blessing to be included in your post! ๐
It is cold & raining here today, our Spring begins tomorrow & the peach, nectrine & flower blossoms are already blooming, our cold Winter is coming to an end! ๐
Thank you,
Jennifer
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๐ ๐ ๐ Unexpected are the best kind of surprises ๐ May the Lord continue to bless you. Isn’t the Lord amazing in the way He does this? We are heading into our Fall weather now, although you wouldn’t know it, because we are still in the 80’s which is unusual for us. But we are not complaining ๐
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Yes His blessings are always amazing…praise Him! ๐
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Good advice! These are all very important. I want to be married again someday if it’s Gods will. I thought I was on that path but things turned out much different then I expected.
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Trust the Lord, He gives only good gifts to His precious kids
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Thank you for sharing
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Our experiences although they vary, yet the lessons we’ve learnt have been familiar
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I love that you sought marriage tips from fellow bloggers! Great post. laurensparks.net
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We can all learn for each other ๐ Our experiences are familiar, yet so different
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All solid suggestions. I’d place communication at the top of my list, or at least in the top 3. Blessings…and stay warm as the temps drop. Visiting via #heartencouragementThursday
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Thank you for coming over ๐ Communication should definitely be in the top 3. ๐ We should definitely be learning to listen
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Good post! 97, 98 here everyday in the The Great State of Texas!
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๐ ๐ wow! Every day huh! I don’t know.. I think I appreciate even more the occasional above 90 here. God bless you
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Brenda, Thx for viewing my post and liking it. Love the name of your blog!! Take a look st this post on my blog… Itโs right up your alley.
https://itreallyisjustthatsimple.com/2014/04/10/his-tapestry-3/
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Thank you ๐ let the Lord be praised. Thank you for sharing that link. I loved, loved this post. I think my favorite part began with the line …โHe weaves it All togtherโ Our God is absolutely amazing
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I loved this blog about marriage! I also loved the fact that you made mention of so many bloggers so now I have more people to possibly follow ๐ keep up the good work
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Praise the Lord! Thank you ๐ Marriage is beautiful and our experiences may vary, but we all can learn from each other
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Wow! Some great advice here! Pinning for future reference. Thanks!
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Thank you ๐๐ฝ May the name of the Lord be praised
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Your weather description sounds like Cleveland. I love the heat and will one day move to Hawaii. ๐บ
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๐๐๐please let me know when, I shall tag along ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
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The more, the merrier! ๐
If you’ve never been, you and your husband have to go. There’s a reason they call it God’s country. (I recommend Kauai and the Big Island. They’re less developed than Oahu, which I call the Orlando of the Pacific, and Maui, which is basically California in the shape of an island. ๐)
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Thank you for your awesome post all the time.l feel blessed and encourage whenever l wake up to a post from you.will be checking the other blogs mentioned .lโm very grateful to the most high for every season .
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Praise the Lord, let His Name be glorified ๐ thank you for reading my post, I do appreciate it; may the Lord bless you
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You two are such a beautiful couple!
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O,h we relish each season in Minnesota also. Things are already starting to cool off this week, though they may heat up again. Our leaves are starting to change color already! You spent a lot of time and effort pulling together these gems to share with us. Thank you very much and God bless.
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I thought it was going to cool down around here, but the 80’s and 90’s keep hanging on for dear life ๐ ๐ I do enjoy the encouragement I get from blogs such as yours. Thank you for sharing
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Hi Brenda!
We have four seasons where I live as well. I am thoroughly enjoying the sunshine because short, dark, and gloomy days will be coming soon for me as well! I live near Seattle, Washington so we don’t measure feet of snow…BUT we measure inches of rain. And we glory in God’s beautiful creation of evergreen trees in abundance with snow capped mountains in the background. ๐
Thank you for sharing and introducing us to other bloggers, I will certainly check them out! I thank God that we have the technology today to be able to communicate how the Lord is working in each of our lives, whether it be in our native residence, or around the world!
What an amazing opportunity God has given us!
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amen and amen! for four seasons, each filled with beauty of its own. I thank God for the bloggers, like you, He has sent into my lives. People who love the Lord and desire to glorify Him with their lives and share a piece of that with me ๐ ๐
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Thank you for mentioning me, Brenda. I will most certainly be checking out the others. There were some really great comments! I love reading your posts, they have definitely challenged me in ways that aren’t always comfortable, but are oh so needed ๐ God knows what we need and when we need it! I think our weather is very similar, we always measure snow in feet, and will be doing it soon! So I am trying to be very conscious of not complaining about the hot weather because winter. is. coming! God Bless!
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Amen!! Too soon, winter will be here ๐ Praise the Lord, to our Lord be the glory ๐ I absolutely love your blog. May the Lord bless you my friend
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Hello Brenda,
my home is in East Africa, we have rainy,cold and hot seasons but they are manageable.Our coldest maybe 10degrees, our hottest is less than 40 degrees.Our God is great in the way he created the universe in different forms, and it’s all beautiful in his sight.
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It’s all beautiful in His sight!! We serve a great and marvelous God, He places us exactly where we need to be ๐ and although we may be oceans apart, it’s great to know we honor the same God
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Thank you dear Brenda for these wonderful insights! I’m going to check out these other bloggers–I’m honored you mentioned me and thank you. Because of reading your blog posts on marriage, my prayer life for my husband has grown considerably. God is good! Lots of love,
Viv๐คโค๐
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Praise the Lord, as family members in the Body of Christ, we encourage and edify each other; we are each others’ keeper
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Amen! Thank you for your encouragement Brenda!๐ค
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Thank you and Thank God for leading me back to blogging when I got injured and couldn’t run. He works in mysterious ways! I am so glad to find other women who love the Lord and love their husbands and work at their marriages. We are blessed! It’s not always easy, is it? God gives us the grace and the ability to love when we don’t feel loving.
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amen and I say even louder AMEN! ๐ ๐ He alone keeps us loving the very unlovable at times ๐ May the Lord bless you. He is trustworthy even the crisis
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