Hey friends, how are you today? Today is going to be a scotching 92°. I do find it difficult to complain about the heat.  Winter is inevitable in my neck of the woods and we measure snow in feet.  It gets very dark and very gloomy and very snowy.  The roads become more treacherous and it’s always cold, right into the first three to four and sometimes even five months of the year. I am very thankful for this warm weather the Lord has given us.  I do appreciate the fact that we enjoy four seasons over here, even though I am quite convinced that Spring and Fall do not hang around for their complete cycle.  What’s your weather like in your neck of the woods? ED4C67F1-79F5-4A87-8C80-CBE9B4C9580CMarriage is a beautiful institution created by God to bring Him glory.  We honor the Lord when we allow Him to use our marriage to draw us closer Himself.  We glorify God not because we make Him any more God or any less God.  We do not make Him bigger nor can we make Him smaller.  We do not add anything to His stature nor can we take away anything from Him.  We glorify the Lord so that our friends and family can see His works in our lives. His glory is our testimony to a world in dire need of hope and love and forgiveness.I cor 13 6 7Here are a few lessons other bloggers have learnt on this journey called marriage; some will bring laughter, but all will have you shaking your heard in agreement.    Please go ahead; visit their blogs to get to know them. Do let them know we sent you over.  The overarching theme in these lessons is definite: PUT GOD FIRST!Matt 6 33Mary at  maryaperez  “No marriage is so good that it cannot be made better.” (Can I get an amen?)

Jennifer at Tea with Jennifer said “We have learnt in marriage, always pray together just before sleep, ending with a kiss good night. You can’t stay annoyed, angry or upset with the other then!”

Tina at God’s kid speaks said “Forgiveness is a big one. Learning to let go of the things we do that hurt each other, even if it was accidental or unintentional…We’ve learned peace and understanding…joy…laughter. Laughing at yourself is a good lesson. Team work…unity… loyalty…faithfulness…respect… accountability…and probably the best lesson we’ve learned is to put God first.”

Rose @ roses at dawn said “Communication!!! Life is so much sweeter when I remember that my way is not always the right way. Supporting each other through thick and thin is not always easy, sometimes you are giving 110%, sometimes he is. Sometimes it is half and half. (This is one of my husband’s thoughts on marriage, but he is so right!) But that is part of marriage and learning to put someone else’s needs before your own. Marriage has taught and continues to teach me to be unselfish. It’s a lot of hard work, but oh so very worth it! Marriage has brought me closer to God. Marriage is God’s gift to us

The Christian Blog Ghana said “I have come to understand that I also need to go on my knees and put my personal petitions before God and things are working out.”

Cindy Ingalls of Prime Beauty Blog said, “It’s important to remember you are part of a team. Being married means working together while also giving each other space to grow as individuals.”

Loved by the King of Kings –  “Pray for your husband. Even if he is in a bad mood or says something mean, pray for him.”

My Treasured Faith  – “Consider the other persons feelings. Really think about how they are feeling when they say “I’m tired today, I’m depressed today, I’m just mentally drained today” and then do something for them – a back rub, a foot rub ( oh yes!), bring them their favorite beverage/snack, etc. – even if you don’t really feel like it. Marriage is about both giving 100% /100 not 50/50. Sometimes one can’t give 100, but if both are giving- the “bank” is never empty”

Vivian at God’s Whispers of Truth, “I’m learning to be a better listener and less whiney.” (love that word: less)

Barbara Lane at Barbara lane blog, “My friendship with my husband is the most valuable and lasting part of our relationship. I can’t think of anyone I would rather “hang out” with than him. It is so important to work at keeping that friendship alive”

Believe4127 said “I was to be the wife He wanted me to be, no matter whether my husband was the husband I thought he should be. Also, I came to know my happiness was not my husband’s responsibility, nor was it my responsibility to make him happy. That happiness or contentment comes from the Lord.”

Lynn of Mad Hatter Poetry – “Remember God’s amazing grace and extend GRACE to your spouse…be the first to say sorry, the first to forgive”.

Erika of concrete detail blog – “marriage is not 50/50 it is 100%/100%. You give a hundred percent even if he is only giving 10. It is about how you respond not how he does. You can only control your actions, not his.”

And finally these tips are from my friend Sonya.  She has been married for 19 years, here are 5 lessons she has learnt throughout this time:

  1. Marriage is like a triangle, with God at the top.  As you move closer to God, you move closer to each other.
  2. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  3. Learn to put your spouse’s needs before your own. It doesn’t mean you forget about yourself.
  4. Try to eat dinner together most evenings.
  5. Always take care of yourself.Matthew 6 26 27

Life tends to be messy at times, especially in marriage. Friends, nothing takes our Lord by surprise.  Take it all to Him, lay it at His feet.  He can handle it!!  How are you doing?closing1brenda

49 responses to “RECAP & A FEW HIGHLIGHTS”

  1. Thank you Brenda. I have really enjoyed your advise and your blog in general. May God bless you for now I know where to get tips when I get married!

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  2. Brenda, I just got a delightful surprise above, ♥
    What a lovely blessing to be included in your post! 😀

    It is cold & raining here today, our Spring begins tomorrow & the peach, nectrine & flower blossoms are already blooming, our cold Winter is coming to an end! 😀
    Thank you,

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  3. O,h we relish each season in Minnesota also. Things are already starting to cool off this week, though they may heat up again. Our leaves are starting to change color already! You spent a lot of time and effort pulling together these gems to share with us. Thank you very much and God bless.

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  4. Hi Brenda!
    We have four seasons where I live as well. I am thoroughly enjoying the sunshine because short, dark, and gloomy days will be coming soon for me as well! I live near Seattle, Washington so we don’t measure feet of snow…BUT we measure inches of rain. And we glory in God’s beautiful creation of evergreen trees in abundance with snow capped mountains in the background. 🙂
    Thank you for sharing and introducing us to other bloggers, I will certainly check them out! I thank God that we have the technology today to be able to communicate how the Lord is working in each of our lives, whether it be in our native residence, or around the world!
    What an amazing opportunity God has given us!

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    • amen and amen! for four seasons, each filled with beauty of its own. I thank God for the bloggers, like you, He has sent into my lives. People who love the Lord and desire to glorify Him with their lives and share a piece of that with me 🙂 🙂

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  5. Thank you for mentioning me, Brenda. I will most certainly be checking out the others. There were some really great comments! I love reading your posts, they have definitely challenged me in ways that aren’t always comfortable, but are oh so needed 🙂 God knows what we need and when we need it! I think our weather is very similar, we always measure snow in feet, and will be doing it soon! So I am trying to be very conscious of not complaining about the hot weather because winter. is. coming! God Bless!

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  6. Hello Brenda,
    my home is in East Africa, we have rainy,cold and hot seasons but they are manageable.Our coldest maybe 10degrees, our hottest is less than 40 degrees.Our God is great in the way he created the universe in different forms, and it’s all beautiful in his sight.

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  7. Thank you dear Brenda for these wonderful insights! I’m going to check out these other bloggers–I’m honored you mentioned me and thank you. Because of reading your blog posts on marriage, my prayer life for my husband has grown considerably. God is good! Lots of love,

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  8. Thank you and Thank God for leading me back to blogging when I got injured and couldn’t run. He works in mysterious ways! I am so glad to find other women who love the Lord and love their husbands and work at their marriages. We are blessed! It’s not always easy, is it? God gives us the grace and the ability to love when we don’t feel loving.

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