Hello friends, how are you today? Wishing you the best day today, truly the choice is yours. Ps. 73 2In the early part of our marriage, soon after kids came along, our marriage went through a rough patch.  I remember calling my mom and saying, “I’m done mom, I can’t do this anymore”.  The truth is, it’s not that I couldn’t, I just didn’t want to anymore.  My mom, in her wisdom, but to my frustration, succinctly said; “you made your bed, you lie in it”.  She also added that there had never been divorce in the family and I will not start that practice. Now, my husband will say, he can’t remember that, which is more than likely true.  I did a lot of talking in my head. But in my defense, there was too much talking, not enough listening.  What’s a girl to do, when every road she wants to take is blocked? She tells the men what they need to know about women…

  1. Love the Lord with all your  heart, soul, might and strength. Love the Lord more than us. Stay close to the Lord.  We love seeing you in the Word.  We tend to believe in your love, when we see how much you love the Lord.  (Luke 10:27)
  2. Be the head of our home.  Now I know this may sound like an oxymoron when we are constantly battling with you for headship.  Extend grace to us; blame Eve, she was first.  If you humbly lead, we will follow. (I Corinthians 11:3)
  3. As women, we want to know, next to the Lord, we are #1 in your life.  We do not want to tie with, not do we want to compete with your parents, with your job, with your friends, with your games. (Genesis 2:24)
  4. Unless we are at war, or you are a soldier; we are your responsibility, not your parents’ nor are we our parents’ responsibility.  You are to look after us, care for us and provide for us financially and for our safety; you and God (of course). We are not wimpy women, truthfully it’s not that we can’t look after and provide for ourselves, (believe me, we can) but it’s not in your best interest if we do.  If we begin to look after and provide for ourselves, then we become independent of you and the truth is sooner or later we will begin to feel there is no need for you.  And when there is no need for you, well… (Ephesians 5:23)
  5. Be the dad to our kids, most of us wish we had.  Love them; make them a priority in your busy schedule.  When we got married; we did not sign up for being a ‘single but not really’ parent.  (Ephesians 6:4)
  6. Listen; I know we have the tendency to ramble and to you it may sound like noise, but most times we are trying to organize our thoughts and of course, there are times we like to hear ourselves.  You don’t always have to agree with us, even if that’s what we want you to do. Sometimes, we don’t even want you to fix our problems. Listen; among the words you will know our hearts.  Listen; it’s not the noise you should fear, it’s the silence.  (James 1:19)
  7. We are complete.  We are 100% complete, made in the image of God.  You do not validate us; you do not give us worth.  We are being remade in God’s image, not yours.  (Genesis 1:27)
  8. We are not your personal slave (That’s free)
  9. Submission is voluntary not forced.  We willing lay down our desire to be in control and allow you to lead, because we trust the Lord and want to obey Him.  Don’t make it harder for us by being a misogynist.  (I Peter 3:7)
  10. Love us (Ephesians 5:25)

Now I know there are some men and women who will ask the question, “what about the women?” Well, what about the women? Is the Word of God negotiable? Should we wait for one spouse to ‘get it together’ before we obey? According to Paul in Romans 6:15 and Galatians 5:13; the answer is No! But don’t worry we’ll get to us later… I thought the men should be first; them, being the head and all… I’m not sure I covered it all.  What are some things men need to know about women?closing1brenda