Hello my friends, I pray that you are having a great day today. Do you think I’m a nice person? Most people may say yes. I usually try to leave that impression on those I encounter. I smile when I greet people, I often offer compliments to them. With most people, I don’t expect much from them, so they rarely disappoint me. People love talking about themselves or their family; I try to remember points about them so that we can engage in conversation. Although I am not necessarily a ‘people person’ I have learned the art of being ‘nice’. Now, ask my family (those people I live with) whether I am a nice person. With them, I can lift the veneer of being ‘nice’. My family knows the true me, because with them it is harder to be ‘nice’ when they fail to reach my expectations. You see, I expect more from them, because they are my family. A few years ago, when we just started our homeschool path, a friend and I talked about the person we become to the different people in our lives. We realized then, that our expectations of people determined how they were treated by us. The more we expected of them, the harsher we became when they failed to reach these expectations. Our children and our spouse bore the brunt of our wrath, because we expected more or better. We believed that because they lived with us, they should know certain facts about us, without being told, or change because they have been told. For example, I like the clothes folded in this way; the dishes should be put away in this manner. Simple things, right? It occurred to us while we were speaking, that for the same offense, different people were treated differently. Why is that? We concluded that we were not nice people after all; not innately. I wonder where I’ve heard that before. Is it really true about me, what the Word of God says in Ecclesiastes 7:20 and again in Jeremiah 17:9? Initially though, I must admit, I blamed them for my actions; I totally believed that it was their fault. If they changed, then everything would be great! Why did they keep doing the same things over and over again? They should know better right? Let me assure you, friends, that when I accepted the Word of God as truth, it was life altering. Now these are not new truths, I knew it already. Remember I accepted the Lord as my Savior, when I was a little girl. I got married in my early twenties and had kids a few years later. I had sufficient time to be the best wife and mother out there. BUT NOTHING PREPARES YOU TO BE A WIFE AND MOTHER THAN ACTUALLY BECOMING A WIFE AND MOTHER! It is astounding how many truths about the Word of God fall to the wayside, at the beginning of most marriages and parenthood. Why is that? In my case, because I had accepted Christ as my Savior at an early age, I realized, I relied more on habits to keep me faithful to Him. Now, don’t knock habits. Habits can be good! As parents, we need to cultivate good habits in our children. Get into the habit of spending time with the Lord; get into the habit of going to church; get into the habit of serving others. Good habits! BUT THOUGH HABITS MAY KEEP US TEMPORARILY, THEY DO NOT GROW US IN OUR WALK WITH GOD. I had to become INTENTIONAL in my walk with God; I had to BELIEVE what the Word of God says about me and about Himself. I had to BELIEVE what He said about how He expected His people to be treated. I had to OBEY what the Word of God said. I had to REALIZE that I am not the center of universe. Thankfully I had great people in my life, who reminded me of these truths when the girls were quite young. Thankfully the Lord has erased most of their memory of the control freak who was their mother. Now if only God would work that same miracle on my husband!
Who are you becoming, my friends? Do you really want to know? Ask your family; they WILL SURELY TELL!